Cleaning Out the Trash

'Taking one step forward and two steps back. . . ' It's a common saying that epitomizes the frustration of trying to get ahead but being plagued by missteps or setbacks. How would you like to eliminate the need to take two steps back?

The key component in this exercise is like attracts like. The more you focus on something, the more you draw it to you. Try it. Set your focus for a week to the phrase "I'm a money magnet". See what happens. In this same way, when we focus on forgiveness, we open ourselves up to healed relationships and positive opportunities.

The way I see it, we can use forgiveness to benefit ourselves in a very pragmatic way.

Where do you want to get ahead in life but find your progress blocked? This would be a perfect area to use the tool of forgiveness.

We're human. We've all had trials and tribulations, many of us are prone to resentment and anger and frustration at people withholding from us what we needed. And in turn we have withheld understanding from ourselves and the cycle is repeated. There's good news. . .

By forgiving yourself and others, you can clear this garbage out of your unconscious mind.

The great thing about this exercise in forgiveness is that it doesn't have to be done in person with those who have upset you or who you've upset. This is what you should keep upper most in your thoughts:

Forgiveness is done to benefit ourselves not somebody else.

The first step in forgiveness: you have to be sincere about it. You have to be willing to let it go. This isn't the act of forgiving, it's the genuine deal. And if you find that you're not fully letting it go, then you haven't yet fully forgiven yourself or others. This is going to really create results in your life.

For this exercise you'll need a piece of paper and a pen...

Your first focus is yourself. Can you identify times when you did something to someone that you're not proud of? We all can, I'm sure. Write these incidents down.

Write down the times you've wronged others.

Write down times when you may have been too hard on yourself.

Write it all down - a list of all the things that you can think of. For each one, write specifically what you did and to whom.

Then write how you have carried that with you, because obviously if you remember it, you've carried it with you. So, how have you carried it wit you, in the form of what? Anger? Guilt?

After you've purged it all, gotten it all down on paper, now you can write out how you are now forgiving yourself. You will find that if you forgive yourself first, you'll find it much easier to forgive others.

Take all that you've written and write yourself a letter. Make sure you've said all that you have to say.

This next step is perhaps the most crucial and fiercely impacts your persuasion and influence powers over yourself and others.

After you've got your letter written, take it to a private, safe place, preferably outside, and read it out loud to the universe stating what you've done and that you are forgiving yourself.

Release it all.

Now light it on fire. Burn it up. This process sets all of the negative energy free. As you watch it turn to as, you are releasing anger and resentment and bitterness and all the ways you've beaten up on yourself.

When this has been accomplished, give a statement of gratitude and appreciate yourself for understanding the importance and doing the work of discharging that negativity. You can now move ahead in your life. Notice how much lighter you feel.

Now that you've forgiven yourself, it's time to forgive others. . .

Now it's time to think outside yourself. Consider how others have wronged you.

How about a job. We've all had jobs where we've just been screwed. How about times when you've felt cheated or taken advantage of? How about times when you've felt unappreciated? How about times you were lied to or were told what amounted to be untruths?

Make a list of the people who have wronged you. Staring with the biggest offender write each one a letter.

Write out your forgiveness for them. And for each person, you're going to write them a separate letter. What did they do to you that you have carried with you in your heart? How did you carry resentment about this issue? What negativity were you wishing to happen to them? Say it clearly.

And finally. . .

Now that you've formally and completely forgiven them on all levels for what they did to you, it's time to go back out to your private, safe place and read all the letters. Burn them, releasing all of it. Then, spend a few moments basking in the sense of freedom and release that you experience.

When you have cleared out the trash, you will find massive amounts of room for prosperity and joy and abundance to circulate and flow. This will give you a very solid foundation for your persuasion skills to begin to really impact your life.

Forgiveness is in itself a form of persuasion - we are persuading our unconscious to release the negativity it's been harnessing for so long, and to grasp the positive hope and excitement for the future. Only then can we truly be free from the mental blocks that hold so many of us back from achieving the life we desire.

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." - Paul Boese

Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of wealthy clients using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion techniques.

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